At the time of writing this blog, I’ve been in business for 10 years. It’s a big number in my head. I want to say I have no idea how I got here but really I’m just trying to downplay my achievements.
For those who are new to my journey, I have a diagnosis of complex PTSD/Anxiety disorder and one of the ways this shows up for me in my business is often when I reach new levels of success. I feel extremely unsafe in success primarily in my early years I learnt that it wasn’t safe to succeed and would always be met with psychological, physical and verbal violence. Where others might celebrate wins, I have historically braced for the other shoe to drop.
It’s probably not that surprising that self-care and psychological safety is a top priority in my personal and business life. In no particular order here are my top 10 self-care strategies for myself which seem could be useful for business owners who are in the midst of this global pandemic with levels of anxiety they might never have experienced before.
1. Brain Dump
One of my team recently made a perfect analogy recently when a problem he was having was solved by clearing the cache of his browser. The realisation was that sometimes our brains are so full of junk it’s hard to get to the useful information. Regular practice for me is to get an A3 piece of paper and scrawl on it every little random thing that pops out, including the things that I think might be completely irrelevant. It often shows some of my negative self-talk and gives me awareness around what I’m carrying around in my head. It also allows for my nervous system to relax a little because it knows I’ve written it down somewhere.
Walking between your computer and the bathroom or refrigerator does not count. Set aside 10 to 20 minutes to go for a casual walk away from technology. The key here is a walk with the intent of disconnect so you don’t drown in your technology. Get good walking shoes.
It’s taken me to 38 years of existence to realise I’ve spent most of my life dehydrated. A recent article gave me the awareness that I should be drinking about 1 litre for every 22 kilos I weigh. Realising that I’m barely drinking even 1 litre of water (I’d historically be barely drinking 500 ml of water.) I recently bought a 2.2l water bottle and started to increase my intake daily. My partner currently thinks I’ve joined some weird water cult but the impact that just drinking more water has had is I’ve been able to focus better, I’m managing to work a full 8 hours, working with a clearer head, my body just generally feels better for it. (side note: For every cup of tea or coffee you consume, match it with a cup of water).
At the peak of covid19, one of my good friends asked me if I had any guilty hoarding habits. There was only one thing I decidedly spent more money on and it was amassing indoor plants into my space at home. If was going to be restricted indoors, I was going to do it surrounded by glorious greenery.
Now admittedly I’m not a person where plants live around me, it’s taken a bit to learn more on how to take care of plants, how to not overwater them.
It has become a nice mindful practice to have a chat to the plants and tell them how pretty they are, or tell them how sorry I am they’ve been neglected and that I’ll do better. The mindful practice of tending to my plants has given me a nice respite from my daily grind.